Eating out with a friend recently, when she was offered some unfamiliar food, she said"I haven't learned to like that yet".
I love that! We normally decide that we like or don't like something and then make it a fixed decision.
Scientists say that it takes around 15 exposures to something before we learn to like it.
Think about foods that are an acquired taste. For me, it was avocados. I hated them the first time I ate them, but now they are amongst my favourite foods.
I have learned to like them.
If I decide before I do a new activity that I'm not going to like it, then it will be a self-fulfilling prophecy. On the other hand, if I can learn from my friend's approach, then I realise that liking is a learned process, not a definitive state.
Try this - think of something that you don't like, and yet it would be valuable to you to like it. For example, your partner's favourite food, or an activity that you've been putting off.
Now, thinking of that thing that you don't like - say to yourself, "I haven't learned to like it, yet".
Now ask yourself, how can you go about learning how to like it?
For example, can you find something comparable that you do like, and re-frame the way that you think about it? For example, if you don't like curry, but you do like chilli con carne, then start thinking about curry the same way that you think about chilli. Look forward to it in the same way you look forward to chilli, savour each mouthful in the same way.
OR, Can you expose yourself to the thing more often to increase your liking to it? How can you build up to the magic 15 times? Try it in small steps, with a a definite intention of learning to like it more and more each time.
OR, Do you know any NLP processes, or do you have a friend who knows NLP? NLP has loads of ways of helping, which could include using sub-modalities or anchoring.
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About Madeleine Allen: The author is a specialist in Leadership, Communication and Personal Development for business professionals. An NLP Trainer and Master Practitioner she conducts in-house corporate training (learn more at www.allentraining.co.uk) and public courses in NLP (learn more at www.nlpedinburgh.co.uk)
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