Yoda's wise words remind me of one of the aspects that I love best about NLP - that the language you use shapes your experience of life.
Take the word "try", for example. When you say "I'll try to do that" you are really telling yourself that you accept the possibility that you might fail.
When you say "I'll try to learn that new skill", you prepare yourself for failure. If you don't learn that new skill, you'll probably console yourself that "at least I tried". Somehow, using "try" seems to hold you back.
What can you use instead?
Well, how about "I choose...", or even simply "I will..."? Both of these alternatives use principles of NLP and positive psychology to wire the brain towards success.
"I will..." sets your intention for success. It stimulates an important part of your brain called the Reticular Activating System (RAS), which acts as a filter to help you to choose what to focus on. Out of the millions of messages you receive through your five senses, your RAS will determine which ones get through. By setting an "I will..." intention, your RAS will focus on whatever it is you have chosen to do.
You will notice the effect of a well-programmed RAS when you start spotting opportunities or coincidences that support your intention. It's the same psychology at work when you buy a new car, and then spot lots of other cars on the road exactly the same.
"I choose..." is a useful option when a small part of you still harbours some doubt. It you don't feel confident enough to say "I will...", then "I choose..." will still steer you towards a successful outcome.
One more way to turn around an "I'll try..." statement, is to ask yourself "What would I try if I knew I could not fail?" By taking away the fear of failure, you open your brain up to its boundless creativity.
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About Madeleine Allen: The author is a specialist in Leadership, Communication and Personal Development for business professionals. An NLP Trainer and Master Practitioner she conducts in-house corporate training (learn more at www.allentraining.co.uk) and public courses in NLP (learn more at www.nlpedinburgh.co.uk)
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