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ARE YOUR WHEELS PERFECTLY ROUNDED

Imagine you’re riding your bike, but instead of round wheels, each spoke is a different length. What would the ride feel like? Would you roll along smoothly, with your pedal power being effortlessly translated into forward motion? Or would you be bumping along,...

You Can Change Your Life

For many people, the idea of a life-change is a bit scary. We tend to think about massive changes like going to live in another country, or changing career. However, some of the most effective life changes are much smaller steps. For example, walking to work instead...

I Can Do It

This morning I got up in the dark to go to the gym.  The car was covered in ice which took me ages to scrape off, and to cap it all it started raining freezing rain.  It was tempting to go back to bed and give it a miss. But I used four magic words for self...

Away From or Towards

Imagine that you are walking somewhere unknown one day and you arrive at a T-junction. The road in front of you has a signpost on it: – The sign pointing back the way you’ve just come says “Your old life”. – The sign pointing to the left says “Away From…”...

3 ways to build rapport

Pretty much every outcome that you can possibly want to achieve will involve or affect other people – unless you’re a hermit.  You’re not a hermit, right? So if what you do involves other people, then one of the best ways to change your life for the better is to build...

The only constant in life is change…

The only constant in life is change. It’s so true, but sometimes change is difficult, or you don’t get the change that you want. We’ve written a short eBook to help you to make changes in your life – changes for the better, and changes that get...

How NLP supported me through my grief

Many of us in the NLP community are called on to use our skills to help those experiencing grief, so I thought I would write this from my intensely personal and current perspective in the hopes that it might help others. Whether you are feeling grief, or helping...

Don’t Read This Article

So what happened when you read the title of this article? If you’ve got this far, then you ARE reading this article. It’s funny the way our brain plays tricks on us.  Our ears and eyes might notice the word “don’t”, but our brains skip...

How did they build the pyramids?

Do you know how the pyramids were built? No? Well you’re in good company.  Even Egyptogists haven’t worked it out yet. And yet on a recent trip to a small village in France I stumbled across a man who DOES know. ​So how did he discover the secret that has...

The Thoughts Jar

Last Christmas, my partner Phil gave me the best present. A tiny screw-topped, glass jar labelled “Thoughts Jar: This jar contains a thought for a week and should be used sparingly. Each thought is to be given due consideration throughout the week.”...

What You Value Is What You Will Achieve

Did you know that your skills are directly related to your values and beliefs? It’s true – the skills that you learn during your life, and your success at those skills, will depend entirely on you holding a value for learning the skill, and a belief that...

I DIDN’T SAY THAT

Have you ever noticed how other people embellish your point, or miss out the really important bit? It’s frustrating isn’t it? And yet we’re all guilty of doing the same thing, and most of the time you don’t even realise it. Try this test to see what I mean....

ONE THING OF MOST VALUE

Last week a friend asked me “what’s the one thing that people most value from your NLP Diploma?”. I couldn’t easily narrow it down to just one. Everyone arrives with their own personal reasons for participating, and each takes away a different “one thing of most...

Top tips for better anchoring

A couple of weeks ago I blogged about the NLP technique of Anchoring. You can read the original article “Supercharge your confidence” here. One reader contacted me to say “Anchoring never seems to work for me” so I promised here I would write...

What does your communication mean?

According to George Bernard Shaw “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” That’s why this Empowering Belief is so important. Most of us think that we have successfully communicated as soon as we have made our own...

You Can Do It

 Start the week with an Empowering Belief. I love the story behind this one. When John Grinder, Richard Bandler and Frank Pucelik started to explore how do people who are really good at something do it, they found that beliefs played a huge part in what was...

How I changed my mind about the gym

I have been an enthusiastic gym user for a number of years now, but it hasn’t always been that way. I used to hate the gym, and would feel really demotivated at the thought of exercise. So what changed? Well I offered myself as a case study for three of my...

5 simple ways to take a rest

You might have seen this quote recently – “You have permission to rest. You are not responsible for fixing everything that is broken. You do not have to try and make everyone happy. For now, take time for you. It’s time to replenish.” It seemed...

What’s your identity?

Start the week with an Empowering Belief – the identity of a person is different from the behaviour they demonstrate. ​This belief is especially important when you are trying to overcome the unhelpful labels that we put on ourselves and others. If you tell...

How Flexible Are You?

Start the week with an Empowering Belief – The person with the greatest flexibility is likely to have the greatest influence. Most of us get stuck into patterns of language and behaviour. If you’ve ever caught yourself saying to your kids/husband/colleague...

Abracadabra: Your words really are magic

Did you know that the magician’s favourite magic word “Abracadabra” comes from an Aramaic phrase meaning “I create as I speak.” ​ In our NLP trainings we often talk about magic with language, and one of our Master Classes is called...